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在仓促的准备下,我参加了一位教友的婚礼。虽然仪式很简单,不过,新郎新娘脸上洋溢着幸福和兴奋。看着他们在对方面前许下诺言,在对方的左手无名指上套上婚姻的证据,再签张结婚证书,仿佛已经完成结婚需要做的事情。可是,有多少人知道结婚后的生活才是焦点。而结婚仪式仿佛就像告知所有人,我终于拥有了另一半一起组织新的一个家庭,然后欢迎大家一起来庆祝欢乐。

我还单身,还未有爱情,所以应该说我不适合说婚姻。不过,在工作上所结识的两位已婚同事却丰富了我这方面的见识。其中一位就在我这个年纪步入婚姻的生活。目前已有一名三岁的女儿,一家三口本应该很幸福才对。可是,在办公室却频频听到她的埋怨声。朋友间的相处有时也会有口舌的时候,何况两个人一起生活在一个屋檐下?当两个人,进入婚姻的生活,慢慢就会发现彼此最真实的一面。喜欢一个人,不是也包括接纳他的缺点吗?不要担心也不要避开他的缺点,反而要一起面对。1+1 =2,我相信这个2可以有足够的力量改善他的缺点。

每一次,她都说她的丈夫好像有外遇。我不敢否定也不敢肯定。不过,我知道,婚姻需要信任。如果任何一方失去了信任,猜测就会越积越多。本来事实不是这样,却因为误会而让彼此疏远。所以,夫妻间最好能够好好的沟通,一起讨论当天遇到的大小事。不要因为‘我不想让对方担心’当作借口,而让对方胡思乱想。借此,坦诚很重要。诚实的说,不管是甜还是苦,也照说。因为爱,我们在一起,当然因为爱,我们一起面对,一起同甘共苦。

不过,她傲慢顽固的性格,是搁浅我们话语的原因。我和另一位同事劝了很多,不过,她仍然坚持自己的想法,不愿为婚姻改进。婚姻是人生的一个大工程。我们要不断地寻找知识善度婚姻生活。谁说结婚后就不能像恋爱时那么般甜蜜?谁说结婚后就不能像恋爱时那么般梦幻?只要我们愿意改进,愿意换个角度,愿意一起努力,我们可以改变本身的婚姻生活。所以,希望我的同事可以明白这点。

同时间,也祝贺这对新人新婚愉快,开心的度过两人世界。当然,另一位同事的故事,下期再续!

I attended a Christian wedding under hurriedly preparation. The bride and groom's face filled with happiness and excitement although the ceremony was very simple. It seems have been completed what a marriage needs to be done after i saw them promised to each other, caught up an evidence of a marriage in each other's left ring finger and signed a marrige certificate.But ,how many people know that life after marriage is the focal point.The marriage ceremony just likes to announce to everyone that i finally have a partner to organize a new family.Then welcome to celebrate it and have fun together.

I still single and not in relationship yet so i am not suitable to talk about marriage.But, my two married colleagues had enrich my sight of this area. One of them was getting married at my age now.At present, she has a three years old daughter. This should be very happy. However, in the office i frequently heard complaints about her life.Sometimes we have quarrel among our friends,moreover two people live together under one roof?When two people enter the marriage life, slowly will find the most realistic aspect of each other.Don't we like a person including accept his shortcomings too?Do not worry, do not avoid his shortcomings, but have to face together.1+1=2, and I believe that this 2 can have sufficient strength to improve his weaknesses.
 
Each time, she said her husband seemed to have an affair. I cannot deny and cannot ensure on it.But i know marriage requires trust.If either party has lost confidence, speculation will be piled up.Originally the facts is not like this, but because of the misunderstanding and let each other apart.Therefore, husband and wife is good to have a proper communication to discuss all the things encountered in the day.And please dont take "I do not want to worry about the other side" be an excuse which may make your partner cranky.So, frankness is very important.Be honest to say, whether it is sweet or bitter, just talk about all.We together because of love.Of course, we should face together,sharing weal and woe because of our love too.
 
However, her arrogant and stubborn personality is the reason for grounding our discourse.I and another colleague persuaded a lot, but she still insisted on her own thoughts and do not want to make any improvement.Marriage is a big project in life. We should constantly look for good degree of knowledge of marital life.Who says that after marriage can not be as sweet as in love? Who says that after marriage can not be fantastic as in love?As long as we are willing to improve, changing to another point of view, and willing to work together, we sure can change our own marriage. So, I hope my colleague can understand this point.
 
At the same time, i also want congratulate to the bride and groom, Happy wedding and wish both of you happy to spend in two of the world. Of course, another story of a colleague will be adjourn to the next issue.
  

 

 

 

 

 

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  • yuanhe
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    yes, indeed. A Marriage is a promise to lived together.

    Trust is the most vital things in my view lar, without a trust everything is useless then. I really look hard on this things in my life.

    An argument begins because both parties believe themselves was the in the right side. Well, sometime pull-back or step back can be a good act.

    Why shall we involve in argument? What is the point of being the winner in argument at the expenses of both happiness??

    well, maybe I'm not coming back fmr a good environment, and had saw many failed and collapsed marriage with my eye, thus I really look hard on choosing a partner.

    Well, I'm really serious when it comes to relationship matter. As myself don't wish to follow the wrong step by them.

    Well, this is my 2 cent view. :)

    I really enjoying reading your blog. Keep up the good work Momo!

    YuanHe
  • qinwei
  • Thanks for enjoying my story.Yup,marriage seems a big project for us which require us do more research on it..Well, wish u can get ur right partner in soon and happy all the time.
  • yuanhe
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    Thanks for the wish. Ya, I'm seeking someone that really caring, lovely, got sweet smile, and sincere to me. I'm ready for committed /serious relationship with her. I don't have any problem to meet up with her family members...lol

    I hopes to have family in the next 5 years perhaps. Well, this is my dream.

    Human plan, while the Almighty will decide on it. We do the best, let HIM do the rest.

    :)

    YuanHe
  • He will arrange the best one for you, just wait the moment nearby.Good things need more time to wait!
    When u are getting marry next 5 years perhaps, dun forget invite me oh!!
    wish u a Merry Christmas!:)

    qinwei 於 2009/12/25 22:19 回覆

  • candice
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    my brother just marry his beloved last 2 weeks. it seems 3hrs dinner,actually is whole life time involved. i enjoy ur blog, very tide and good in grammar... well, human born to get commitment. even we know it may is a burden.
  • thanks for enjoying my blog.i still learning my english.through writing this blog, i think i can improve my mandarin or english level.hope so..
    i think when u have ur beloved, then it will not a burden anymore.marriage need both sides give the commitment.wish u can meet someone special in soon!

    qinwei 於 2009/12/25 22:28 回覆

  • yuanhe
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    Ya, I hopes so will meet up with someone that very special. :)

    Just now, I had been fool by frens, them nudge me by saying that they got one candidate wanna be introduce to me....lol. OMG...

    Que sera sera - what will be, will be. :)

    Well, I looking for the best one. Someone that really sincere and nice. God knows what is the best for us. :)

    YuanHe
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